What Do Bridesmaids Pay For?
Bridesmaids have a tough job. They are arguably under more stress than the bride!
Being in a wedding party involves more than just the big day. There’s the dress fittings to attend, the bridal shower, bachelorette party, rehearsals, and the whole ensemble. Not to mention if you’re coming in from out of town to be there for your friend’s special day, you can factor in travel costs on top of all that.
Save yourself the stress (and scary credit card bill) and take a look at what expenses traditionally lie in the hands of the bridesmaid:
Bridesmaid attire: YES
Be prepared to pay for your dress. Good brides pick out inexpensive dresses, or let their bridesmaids choose their own as long as they stay with a certain color and length. But regardless of whether your dress is $50 or $300, the responsibility lies on you to take care of the cost.
Bridesmaids should pay for their shoes, earrings, and other jewelry for the wedding. But if the bride chooses a uniform look and requires all bridesmaids to wear the same earrings and shoes, she should take care of the cost.
Bridal Shower: MAID OF HONOR
The host of the shower takes care of the costs. Contributions by bridesmaids are appreciated, but not required.
Hair and Makeup: VARIES
Like accessories, if the bride requires a uniform look and professional hair and makeup, she should take care of the cost. Otherwise, it is the bridesmaid’s responsibility to get dolled up for the big event.
Bachelorette Party: YES
The bachelorette party is a team effort. All attendees should pitch in for the bachelorette party and make sure the bride does not have to foot the bill. Usually the cost is split evenly among the bridesmaids and other friends attending the trip.
Like all other guests attending the wedding, all travel costs lie in the hands of the bridesmaid. Bridesmaids need to take care of all financial aspects of traveling for the wedding, including taking time off work, plane tickets, rental cars, hotel rooms. While it is an honor to be a part of the wedding party, it is ultimately the bridesmaid’s choice to take part and take on the cost.
Gift for Bride and Groom: VARIES
This is a tricky one. Traditionally, bridesmaids are still required to give a wedding gift to the bride and groom. However, it is less common in modern practice because of all the other expenses involved with being in the wedding party. It is also proper etiquette as a bride to not mention anything if a gift is not given. Typically, a gift will be given if the spouse of the bridesmaid is invited to the wedding. The final call on this lies in the hands of the bridesmaid.
Your wedding should be a fun and memorable event, but it is important to keep in mind that while you hope your best friends can take part in every aspect of the celebration, they likely have done this more than once and will be doing it again in the near future. It shouldn’t be a financial burden to take part in your special day, so do what you can to alleviate travel, party, and beauty costs for your girls!
About the author: Milestone Events Group is Northern California’s most experienced Wine Country Wedding Experts & largest event management company providing site selection services to multiple locations throughout Sonoma County. Over the past 7 years Milestone has helped hundreds of couples simplify the venue selection process by providing clarity, predictability and ultimately confidence for clients who work with them to evaluate wineries, ranches, and other locations for their private events.