12 Most Common Wedding Pitfalls Brides Should Avoid
Many of these real-life wedding pitfalls could easily be avoided with a little pre-planning prior to the big day.
Although you may be eager to run out and secure your officiant, call caterers, and select your dress, the first order of business should be to select your venue. The availability of your selected venue should drive all other inquiries and decisions. If you are in love with that venue, you may need to be flexible with your date in the event they are already booked. Once you know your date options, you can reach out to whomever you would like to perform your wedding ceremony and make sure they are available as well.
2. Not establishing a guest list early enough
In order to shop for our venue, you will need to know how many guests you plan to invite. This seems like a task that is a long way off, but it is actually one of the first things you should do. Additionally, stay on top of the RSVP list – so many elements at your wedding are impacted by making sure this list is accurate. The caterer’s head count, the seating plan, and even the rental company’s order can be thrown for a loop if you do not have this number tallied.
3. Haste makes waste
If you are narrowly focused on a very specific style of dress, you may miss out on one that might be transformative and compliment you in ways that you couldn’t have imagined. Be open to trying many, many styles, materials, and even colors before making your decision.
4. Not enough time on the wedding morning
Epic pitfall is to not allow enough time for hair and make-up on the day of your wedding. Make sure your bridesmaids get hair and make-up first, so the make-up artist can concentrate on you. Also, if you are late to the wedding, this creates a ripple effect and may delay the entire timeline of your wedding. Disaster! You already need to allow for the extra-long and unexpected toasts, and any other unforeseen delays. Don’t start off the day on the wrong foot.
5. No DIY timeline
DIY is a great way to add personality to your wedding without breaking the bank but be realistic in allocating enough time to complete all that needs to be done the day of your wedding. If you are using a day-of-coordinator, make sure they know ALL of the elements of your vision prior to putting a timeline together for the day. And, no surprises here! That last thing anyone wants to experience is an extra 10 boxes of Oriental Express tchotchkes that no one has time to put out.
6. Not including your husband-to-be
It is all too common that bride’s neglect to involve their groom in the process of the wedding planning. This is a day for both of you, so make sure to assign some jobs to your man, and get his input on the details he would be interested in.
7. Finding and buying accessories before you find your dress
Although it may be tempting to get all excited with your wedding planning and pick up some super cute accessories before you have selected your wedding gown, don’t do this! They likely won’t match your dress once you’ve found it, and the dress should be the leading character.
8. A look you’ve never worn
Too many times brides elect to go with a look that no one has ever seen them rock. Don’t select this day to try something that you’ve never tried. If you feel more like you with your hair down, don’t decide to wear it up for the first time. The more natural and comfortable you look, the more confident you will feel.
9. Not budgeting for wedding dress alterations
Keep in mind that you will likely have to pay for wedding dress alterations initially, and maybe even again before your wedding day. Unless your dress is custom made just for you, you need to allow for some budget in this area. And please don’t make the mistake of buying a size that you believe you will be by your wedding day…this can lead to costly and difficult alterations as the last minute.
10. Too much time between the ceremony and reception
Many couples elect to have their professional photos taken after the ceremony and before the reception. If this time drags on for more than an hour, your guests might be bored out of their minds. Plan some entertainment while you are gone, such as corn hole, giant Jenga, or ring toss. You will also want to make sure your guests have something to drink and snack on while you are away.
11. Not having an inclement weather backup plan
You’re getting married in wine country, mid-June, guaranteed to be perfect weather…NOT! No matter what the local, weather is unpredictable at best. With the afternoon winds, the unexpected rainstorm, or the unbearable heat, a backup plan is in order. If there isn’t an indoor solution, make sure you have considered a tent as backup, heat lamps, or umbrellas. As good old’ Ben Franklin was known to say, “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”
12. Forgetting to eat on your wedding day
Just don’t be that bride (or groom) that faints at the alter because you forgot to eat something at breakfast. Pace yourself on the alcohol as well – it’s going to be a long and wonderful day.